Oh this touches me deeply and I feel the pain also. My similar experience has also made me see the double standards of men. It’s seldom ever talked about, at least that I’ve heard about, that men should be virgins also. There isn’t the pressure on boys to remain virgins because I was taught, boys will be boys. It also made me think of the adulteress who was going to be stoned. What about the man who committed adultery with her? Why didn’t he get stoned? It seems like the woman is always the one punished for the sins of men.
You touch me with every essay you write. So right on!
Thank you Terri, it’s very cathartic to get all these feelings out, they have spent too many years festering within me.
Oh this touches me deeply and I feel the pain also. My similar experience has also made me see the double standards of men. It’s seldom ever talked about, at least that I’ve heard about, that men should be virgins also. There isn’t the pressure on boys to remain virgins because I was taught, boys will be boys. It also made me think of the adulteress who was going to be stoned. What about the man who committed adultery with her? Why didn’t he get stoned? It seems like the woman is always the one punished for the sins of men.
Yes, it’s so unfair to bear so much of the responsibility and the guilt.
This needed to be said. Thank you Stephenie.
It’s a burden I’ve carried for a long time.